The best reason to start a company is to solve a problem that you genuinely, to your core, care about, and you can’t see another way to do it. People who find this are truly blessed.
And then there are the rest of us, and we are complicated. Here is my take.
The motivations for starting a company are complex – there are “light” and “shadow” forces.
What can seem light:
“I want to make a positive impact on the world!”
“I want financial independence so I can spend more time with my family!”
Can also have a shadow component:
“If I make an impact on the world, I will finally feel self worth and the respect of my parents!”
“I need as much money and power as possible to give me feelings of safety I’ve never had!”
In my early 20s, my professional motivations were a poorly understood soup of light and shadow forces. I’d roughly characterize light forces as “needs pursued from a happy, authentic place” and shadow forces as “needs craved from an unhappy, incomplete place.”
I had a vision for my life that ended with a 20 hour work week by my mid-30s, a comfortable suburban existence, and plenty of time to spend with my future kids. I also desperately wanted to feel a sense of adventure – it was less about the money, more about the freedom, fun, and unpredictability.
Becoming an entrepreneur, or “going into business for myself”, seemed like the best way to achieve this future, so I picked that as my aspirational identity.
There was real joy in building a business. I loved finding talented people and being their best (albeit gruffest) cheerleader, and I loved playing a part in creating good jobs and putting a top quality product out into the world.
I loved the feeling that my life had some momentum and that every year would be different than the next. My business partner Tim is my childhood best friend, and being able to play the game of business with him is a real pleasure.
There are cracks in the story though.
Behind every light need there was a shadow craving, originating from a wound and an unhappy place.
Light: I wanted to feel empowered to shape my career towards my goals.
Shadow: I lost confidence that I would ever be “picked” by an elite institution whose status I could attach myself to in order to feel worthy. I had a deep anger and distrust towards authority.
Light: I wanted to be “in the arena”, living a true adventure, experiencing all that life had to offer.
Shadow: I wanted to think of myself as someone who was in the arena. Egoic grandiosity lurked behind many ambitions, telling me I was heroic and writing a superior “story” for my life.
Light: I was full of ambition and super excited to create something “real” in the world that I owned a part of.
Shadow: There was a lot of fear that I would fail at achieving my ego’s chosen identity. The fear could be extremely productive, but it could also be poisonous. I woke up anxiously in the middle of the night, and I would drive home from work with my face sore from clenching it all day. Anger was great fuel, but anger cut me off emotionally and made me numb.
Light: I wanted to feel autonomy over my time and financial future.
Shadow: I really didn’t want the pressures, constraints, financial limitations, and long hours of what I imagined a corporate job to be. I had to find some way to make money that just wasn’t that. Entrepreneurship was as much escaping that life path as it was running to building businesses.
It was messy business trying to get deep unmet needs met through my professional life, and the light/shadow cross currents were very confusing.
Suffice to say that what seemed like a simple choice at 25 looks a lot more complicated at 39.
The truth is, I’m still working on figuring out what to make of all this. Shadow motivations were extremely useful in the difficult parts of my early career, and I don’t know if we would have made as much progress without them. As Josh Wolfe says, “chips on shoulders put chips in pockets”.
However, as I got older, the negative side effects took a toll on my personal and professional life. Having so much fear and anger in my motivational stack just wasn’t working for me anymore, and it became painfully obvious that I had to address some areas of real neglect. Playing detective with my own web of motivations has been deeply helpful for my own growth.
If I had to leave the prospective entrepreneur with one thought (that I would have absolutely ignored at 25) it would be:
“The reasons you want to start a company are probably a lot deeper and more complicated than you think. You’ll learn a lot about yourself when you’re ready to try to figure them out.”
One thought on “Entrepreneurial Motivations: Light and Shadow Forces”
Holy crap dude. This speaks to me in so many levels. Thank you for posting.
– 31 yr old navigating (trying to understand) the lights/shadows
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